“Moreover the LORD saith, Because the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton eyes, walking and mincing as they go, and making a tinkling with their feet: therefore the Lord will strike with a scab the heads of the daughters of Zion, and the LORD will lay bare their secret parts.” Isaiah 3:16-17
The Lord makes it clear that He doesn’t regard flirting as a good thing. He told the women of Zion that He would put sores on their heads and make their secret parts bare because of their flirting. He doesn’t want His daughters to do it, nor His sons.
For a man, flirting simply says there something else we see we’ve encountered that attracts us. Relative to being married, we get as close as we can without actually touching her. Yet, Jesus says if you lust in your heart, adultery has already been committed. Every sin begins in the heart. Therefore, the issue is more so not what flirting is, but what it does in the heart, when God’s word says to guard our hearts with all diligence because out of it flows the issues of life.
If you have a desire to flirt, your flirt tells a deeper need. Is the fire for the one you married gone? Why do you want to flirt with another woman? If you can remember, there was a time that you flirted with your wife. If there is something you aren’t getting at home from your wife, you have to open up and tell them. This is a tough admission, yet it’s better to be honest with her, than to be drawn away from being ravished, passionate and captivated by the woman God gave you.
Let your eyes only be for one woman–your wife. Drink from your own well and be satisfied with her breasts. Turn up the fire in your own bed. Step away from everything and take your wife on an excursion that she’ll never forget. Dress up again. Get clean again. Flirt again.
Your flirt should be with one woman every day-your wife.
Prayer: Father, this is good. Thank You for Your awesome word and for dealing with me about flirting. Help me to be mindful of this and not to do it. If the desire is in me, take it away. Let my flirt and passion only be for the woman You gave me. I use to flirt with my wife. Help me get back to that. Help my wife and I to do the same thing that caused us to marry in the first place. In Jesus’ name, Amen.